From the very first time you touch that hot burner as a kid, to driving too fast on an icy road and ditching your car, we learn the best from pain. Pain from people should be looked at no different. Yes, there is more of an emotional involvement due to who, or expectations which makes it more difficult. Once those feelings pass though, take something from it and grow. Mother nature uses pain to teach us lessons so that we don't forget. You aren't going to touch that hot burner again are you?