Summary: Arguably the greatest piece of literature written by renowned psychoanalyst Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving dives into the history of love and the characteristics required to be and show love.
Favorite quote: "Automatons cannot love; they can exchange their 'personality packages' and hope for a fair bargain."
Takeaways: 1. To truly love others, you must love yourself. This doesn't apply to selfishness, which is based on egotism, narcissism, and paradoxical hatred for certain qualities of oneself.
2. As with any art, maturity, self-knowledge, courage, practice, and understanding are needed.
3. There are many ways to overcome the separateness we feel from the rest of the universe. Sex, drugs, and conformity are often used, but the most powerful method is through love.
My thoughts/questions: How many of us have truly pondered about what love is? Why do we not realize we're never truly alone? The book is a fascinating read, as it cuts through the illusions and expectations we have about love. It started the trend in literature for books about improving love situations through practical actions, though it has nothing of the sort in it. Overall, the book presents an idea of love that if carried out, would improve social situations tremendously.
Should I continue to form my concept of love through Fromm, Rumi, the Dalai Lama, Terence McKenna, and other prominent figures, or can Disney movies, pop songs, and rap songs like Taste by Tyga do a better job?
Eternal gratitude to all of you.😄