It is essential to both ourselves and our children/ teens to learn how to grieve through life’s tragedies and disappointments. You may be surprised to find out that grief can be your best friend. It is God’s answer to processing loss, pain, and disappointment. You may be afraid of these intense feelings and can’t believe they are good. I know, but they are. God is an expert at grief and transitions, and He completely understands. He doesn’t expect us to have our grief processed within a certain amount of time. He is faithful to love us and our children through difficult times.
It's really important to not try to make your child take a shortcut to process their emotional pain. Believe me, I’m guilty of this too. We are vulnerable to do this because it is so painful to see our children suffer. It’s easier to suffer yourself, than watch your child suffer. Sometimes, we shut down their emotions, because it's so hard for us to see them in so much pain. It is necessary pain. God gives us grief to work through difficult times. *
Our children and teens go through so many losses in their lives, both big and small. Helping them learn to grieve in healthy ways will help them not get stuck in the disappointments of life, and make them less susceptible to numbing their pain with alcohol and drugs.